Living with multiple sclerosis can be stressful enough by itself, and the idea of hosting company may feel like the proverbial last straw. Maybe that’s why MSers might be reluctant even to offer. And that’s not unreasonable, considering how suddenly a flare-up can sideline us. It’s hard to commit to taking on extra tasks or responsibilities when we cannot predict when or how quickly our bodies will betray us without warning.
At the same time, anyone with a long-term and potentially debilitating medical condition can quickly feel lonely, isolated, and out of touch with others. We may even sense that it’s our turn to have the family, circle or friends, or office mates over for a luncheon, cocktail party, barbecue, or other gathering.
What can the MSer do to de-stress the prospect of hosting guests? Here are several suggestions. Maybe you can add more (in the comments).
- Choose a date that fits easily into your own schedule. Try to keep your calendar clearer than usual right before and after the event.
- Plan to host during your best part of the day, when your own energy is likely to be at its strongest.
- Invite another person to co-host, if that works with your guest list.
- Keep the menu simple. There’s a reason potlucks are so popular.
- Look into catering and take-out options, if those could fit the bill.
- Complete as much of the food preparation in the days leading up to the event, so you can pace yourself. Consider what items you might make and freeze in advance.
- Try to get plenty of rest ahead of the event, including an early bedtime the night before.
- Check the thermostat in your home. Turning it down a notch or two may help to prevent you from overheating, especially with extra people around generating extra heat and excitement. We all know what heating up does to MSers.
- Be sure to take your regular medications. You might even take your rescue medication, just in case, if you are concerned about sudden symptoms (like a headache, GI issue, or anxiety attack) cropping up.
- Pick out a no-fuss comfortable outfit to wear for the occasion.
- Go barefoot (in your own home) or in your stocking feet. Or at least, wear comfy no-slip shoes.
- Step away for mini-breaks, as needed, after guests have arrived. Even an extra restroom break or a moment in the garage or fresh air can help you to relax a moment and clear your head.
- Allow guests to pitch in and help, especially if they offer. Don’t try to do it all alone.
- Remember to drink plenty of water and to eat something, instead of simply serving others. Hunger and dehydration are no-no’s for anyone, but particular for MSers.
- Avoid the alcohol and any food triggers you might have while you are hosting. (For example, chocolate can be a migraine trigger. High-fiber foods can set off any GI issues, common to MSers.)
- Sit down whenever you can. Let the dirty dishes pile up in the kitchen sink, while you take a breather and enjoy your guests.
If the idea of hosting company (even family) in your own home still sounds overwhelming, remember this mantra:
Go out to eat instead.
You can always put out the proverbial welcome mat without actually having people come into your home.
Dining out usually costs a bit more than having a meal at home. But it may be worth it. And you can always ask for separate checks, if that seems appropriate with the present company. After all, the main point is gathering with colleagues, friends, or loved ones. It’s probably more about the people than the venue.
Hosting guests is a treat. But it shouldn’t have to be a trigger to an MS exacerbation.
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